Compassionate mindfulness. Compassion for self. Compassion for others.
Mindfulness is paying particular attention. Compassionate mindfulness then, of course, is paying particular kindly attention to yourself, your needs and your care; as well as being thoughtful and gentle with others.
My daughter and her husband ought to give workshops on the joys, pleasures and ease of living a compassionate mindful life. They are amazing with their thoughtfulness, generosity and careful looking ahead. I certainly came to the right place to heal following a 5 day stint in the hospital. And every day I grow stronger and more prepared to live on my own.
What Robert and Lisa do so very well is make loving an art. There is a lightness and ease in the air that surrounds those in their presence. One feels their compassionate mindfulness to be a gift they give freely and tenderly. In return they too are loved, appreciated, seen for the generous people they are. More Lisa and Roberts in this world and there would be more love and health, less fear, and no battles that need to be fought.
Laughter is a big part of their relationship with each other. They can laugh at themselves, accept the laughter of the other and take responsibility when a mistake has been made. They do not hold grudges, let differences pile up, and never have any intent to hurt or offend the other or anyone else. Probably not perfect…..but pretty darn close!
Think for just a moment what life might be like if your head was free of fear or resentment; if your heart felt light and safe and at ease; if you could trust that you have the best intentions for all people and you know all people have the best intentions for you. A life of security that you are loved, wanted, valued, respected…..and you gave the same in return. What would it be like if you always led with the assumption that you would mindfully be compassionate and would in return receive compassionate mindfulness for yourself!
Try it. Practice. Lead assuming the crazy driver has his reasons and they are not about you. Lead assuming all people you meet each day want the best for you just as you want the best for them. If someone has something you want or need but don’t have or don’t know how to get, that does not mean anyone is bad or wrong. It means you get to have it as well, and you need some support and guidance in figuring out how.
Notice what your beloved needs or wants. Help them to be able to get that and know that the time will come when you are helped to get want you need or want. Assuming good will, exhibiting compassion, being mindful of what you say and do, all are certain to add up to relief, release, freedom from fear that there is not enough: not enough love, not enough hope or kindness or food or safety. We are each one of us responsible for making certain there is enough for everyone
Gratitudes help us remember how much we do have and remind us to be intentional about being a compassionate person.
- I am grateful for today being slow and quiet as yesterday was full and challenging and a mindful day off feels sweet
- I am grateful for sun and blue sky and mild weather
- I am grateful for wise decisions I have made re: my new home
- I am grateful for love, kindness, and growing health
- I am grateful I fill my heart, ears, soul with music and hope
- I am grateful I have a cane to use, I use it less, and I use it wisely
Hugs, blessings, hope, Nancy