March 31, 2016

“Every aspect of what happens to us must become part of a learning experience.”

Diane Mariechild


This particularly resonates when I tell myself I have wasted time doing something. Like having lunch with that person was a write off, or going shopping then made no sense, or making a phone call landed me no where.

I don’t think so. I think there is always something I can learn in every encounter, every event, every act I do and even in acts I do not do but thought about and choose not to. I learn in the decision to decide to say no.

What I must do is think deeply: what is this all saying about me? Do I bore myself? Do I not notice what that person might have liked from me thus missed the point? Am I pleased I stretched into doing something I thought would be difficult? Or am I pleased I turned away and did not engage when I might have in the past and been hurt or taken hurtful action toward someone……even the slightest happening can have meaning.

There is a couple well into their seventies I often meet at the cemetery when I walk Aimee. They have a dog who has been in their life a long time and is not doing well. They have a morning ritual of walking, resting on a bench, walking, resting, talking with me, resting…..going to McDonald’s for coffee. They smile. I smile. They connect with me and I with them. So simple. So easy. All three of us clearly look forward to our fairly regular encounters. He waits for me sometimes when Aimee and I are late. She walks across the hills to greet me when they have gone ahead. I wonder each day if today we will talk.

I learn how important small encounters are and how quickly they build up to become medium and maybe might be big at some point. Everything matters.


  • I am grateful for a deep dream filled sleep last night
  • I am grateful Aimee is so healthy and such a good girl and gives me so much comfort
  • I am happy I have a conference to attend tomorrow that I am looking forward to
  • I am grateful/happy/delighted my brother has a smile on his face. He very much deserves to be happy.
  • I am grateful for the caring and sharing my friend Dawn and I did this past weekend.

Have a good rainy day, dear friends. Hugs, Nancy

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